It’s been years since I made a post like this. ‘Bitches I hate’ is usually about characters from TV/Books and Film but I had to write about real people for once. Since coming to Korea I’ve met a lot of people, some nice, some not so nice. This post isn’t about life in Korea or Korean people, so please unwind and relax because this isn’t about race. It’s about how deceitful some people are. I met a dude here who has so many faces, I’m surprised he’s able to keep up. One face is this straight-laced worker for a VERY popular Korean company (hint: it’s not LG), another face is the uber macho dude who gets turned up on the weekends and likes to sleep with random women he meets, another one is the very chill, thoughtful man who looks out for his friends and his family and then the last face I’ve been privy to, is the man who also likes to get his dick sucked by other dudes on the weekend. The guy is bisexual and has decided to explore his sexuality using the slight anonymity of living in Seoul. I remember when he and I first started interacting with each other-it took us kissing in front of his coworkers for him to reveal that he had a girlfriend (who lived back in America). After my guilt got the better of me I stopped talking to him, but a month later we reconnected. He told me he told his girlfried about us and she was hurt but she accepted it. Every time after that I would ask about his gf’s well-being and he would get annoyed with me. He even lied about what her name was. The only reason I know this is because the same name he gave me, happened to be the name of his someone who is an artist who was tagged all over his fb as his best friend.
This same dude also had another female friend who was under the impression they were dating-and he never told her any different until she sent him a message confessing how she felt about him. Then he finally told her he had a gf (after 6 months of friendship). He neglected to mention that he’s currently pursuing men too.
This guy told me that he’s cheated on all his gf’s except one and that he feels like cheating is innate for men and that women shouldn’t value fidelity so much because in his opinion, infidelity isn’t a deal-breaker. When he came out to me as bisexual (and he only did that because I saw the Grindr app on his phone…) I felt sad that he couldn’t be his true self. But now after seeing how he is with men (at the local gay clubs here, trust me there’s a scene), I just look at him like this:
Dude recently told me he’s only had one gay experience in his life. His gay friend sat in the bar, with a drink in hand and told me: ‘I don’t think ______ needs anymore gay experiences’.
I seriously wonder why this dude hops out the bed with a mouth full of lies. At the same time I know arrogance has a lot to do with it-people who think they are smarter than others tend to act like this, but then they get caught. Don’t let hubris govern how you act. In fact, stop being so deceptive and just tell the truth-or furthermore stop withholding game changing information. People just get hurt and it’s not fair.